One thing that became quite apparent after the first MomsMentorMoms’ gathering event is that the discussion about the day’s theme, “The Unexpected Courage of Motherhood,” requires much more time and more opportunities to meet in order to thoroughly delve into how it applies to our motherhood experiences. Spending five hours on a gorgeous fall Saturday in November allowed for merely brushing the surface of this meaningful and important exploration that affects all moms, regardless of where you are on the journey.
Webster’s dictionary defines courage as “the ability to do something you know is dangerous and difficult” and it almost seems redundant to think that any explanation is required to connect the dots demonstrating our need for courage in our roles as mothers. Yet, it is often overlooked how vulnerable and exposed we are to criticism and judgment from others when we do whatever is required from us to meet the needs of our little ones. Without always having the armor to withstand the scrutiny, we step into positions that demand us to be courageous and brave in order to accommodate those needs.
Guided by the love and commitment we have to our children that they grow into healthy and self-assured people, we are left with no other choice than to dig deep and carry around the heavy and bulky armor required of us to “do whatever it takes.” By no means is that an easy task, and by no means is it done without feeling defenseless and helpless at times, leaving it to be both difficult and emotionally dangerous, meeting the definition of courage “to do something you know is difficult or dangerous”.
Through support and encouragement, we validate for each other that this motherhood experience is extraordinary and demanding, especially in a world that can’t wait to criticize and demean us as we perform our warrior mom roles. Often, it requires more from us than we feel capable of giving. But, how many of us are sufficiently prepared to handle the risks to our own personal well-being in order to sacrifice for these important roles we play and how can we, as mothers, construct the necessary armor that allows for adequate protection from this exposure?
There is no doubt this discussion must continue. Through our sharing and exploration together, we will strengthen these roles we have as mothers while doing the same for other women on the same journey who are walking the same warrior route. Through support and encouragement, as well as the unspoken bond that exists between us, we will ultimately be stronger and most of all, never feeling alone.